Ignorance endorsed by a great authority will not become truth.

Sadhguru
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The quality of our lives boils down to this: the nature of our relationship with ourselves and those around us.

We want to be happy and loved. We want our lives to mean something to someone else too. We are constantly taking actions and moving towards people we think will make our lives better.

The goal itself is simple but the players (you and others) aren’t. People can be quite erratic. We, on the other hand, are constantly making wrong assumptions about what we really need to be happy.

We create conditions here and there, and without realizing it, we’ve become so complex we don’t understand ourselves let alone others. …


How conformity, rigidity, impatience and inconsistency affects creativity.

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So far, Robert Greene has displayed profound creativity, adaptability, and hard work by churning out six international bestsellers. Apart from his in-depth analysis of human nature and life in general, his books always have a touch of unconventional and thought-provoking ideas, making his works always get people’s attention.

Being creative entails getting in touch with what makes you unique; it entails having the courage to look at life fearlessly through your own eyes, and expressing what you see or feel despite the probability of being misunderstood. As Robert put it in Mastery,

“The truth is that creative activity involves the entire self — our emotions, our levels of energy, our characters, and our minds.” …


1. Everything doesn’t happen for a reason.

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The more we know, the better we become. Though there will never be a point where we’ll have all the rules we need to live life perfectly, what we can do is to keep learning. With each information we are exposed to, we become better, and consequently, we do better.

Though our goal isn’t to outgrow anyone, it is our intellectual responsibility to outgrow who we used to be. It is how we reduce the gap between who we are and who we want to be. Growth is how we fulfill our innate longing for meaning. …


1. Don’t base your evaluation on what’s most apparent.

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We’ve all been in situations where we assumed certain things about people only to find them to be the opposite of what we’ve pictured them to be.

This could be the perfect looking guy or girl we finally went on a date with only for our wild imaginations to be crushed by reality. Or the boss we’ve always admired from afar, only to find out their true nature when we get a chance to work closely with them.

We are constantly in situations where our assumptions of people are nowhere close to reality. Often, our evaluation of people’s character is formed before we even know them. We merely project our own assumptions of what their nature should be, based on what we’ve learned from society. …


Every moment is a part of your extraordinary story.

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We get bored, not because our lives are boring, but because we’ve become too accustomed to seeing only heightened versions of reality.

On average, adults in Africa and South America spend more than 3 hours on social media every day. Meaning we spend over 21 hours a week looking mostly at snapshots of the best moments of the lives of others.

When you go on YouTube, most of the popular videos are usually a compilation of the best motivational videos, best movie scenes, best red carpet moments, best parkour moves, best everything. …


1. They always overthink before taking action.

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Overly seeking the approval of others can make an already difficult life hell to live in.

I remember when I switched schools in my third year in secondary school, I would wake up each night for five days straight with thoughts of panic. “What would my new classmates think of me? Omg! what are the girls like? They are all probably very smart in that school.” The thoughts of me being rejected by my new classmates were terrifying and nerve wrecking.

We all care, to an extent, about what others think of us. To completely ignore what people think of you is impractical. However, some people are on the extreme of the approval-seeking spectrum. Why? Because if we don’t have an internal metric which we evaluate ourselves, we’ll do anything to get a good evaluation from others. …


No, it isn’t about just saying what you think or doing what you want.

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“Look, I’ll be honest with you, that’s just a stupid idea.”

Comments like this used to make me feel like an authentic person. Like many people, I confused authenticity with rudeness. Sometimes we excuse our insensitivity and lack of care as a sign that we are authentic. Sure, authenticity indeed makes you more honest, but that’s just a part of what it entails; it also makes you a better person.

Usually, the signs are more internal, like a dimension of consciousness that begins to open up to you as you understand yourself and life better. The good news is that we all know what authenticity feels like. We’ve all had glimpses of it from time to time, some more than others. …


And it thrives more on brainwashing than reason.

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I grew up a Christian. Barely a week old, I was taken to a church to be committed to the hands of God for blessings and protection from all the evil that life could bring.

Before I could read, I was receiving moral lessons taught through the characters and stories in the Bible. Everything I learned, and thought had to be in line with these doctrines.

Are they true? Who wrote them? Were the writers really under the influence of a supernatural power or are we just assuming things? I had no idea. …


You just don’t take them.

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Sometimes we get so used to looking for growth and improvement that we forget to actually grow and improve.

We all have an idea of who we want to be. It’s right there at the tip of our fingers. We see it, we feel, but we perceive the realization of that self as a grand transformation.

We assume that growth is a natural consequence of getting older. That as we get more mature, we will eventually muster the strength of character to bring our ideal self into reality.

We believe that when the time will finally come, we will know exactly what to do. …


Sometimes, we do bad things because of empathy.

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In 1963, The New Yorker commissioned Philosopher and political theorist Hannah Arendt, to travel to Jerusalem and report the trial of Adolf Eichmann who was one of the major organizers of the Holocaust.

Arendt’s writings about the trial, which was published in Eichmann In Jerusalem: A Report on the Banality of Evil, captures a sober reality about an aspect of human nature which we always see as good — empathy.

One of the core messages Arendt puts across in her findings, which is now popularly known as “the banality of evil,” is that those who perpetrate acts of evil, like Eichmann or the regular civilians who supported leaders like Hitler and the Nazi party, are often just regular people. …

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Writer. Learner. Lover of great books. I write about everything I learn about living a better life. Contact — https://www.linkedin.com/in/destiny-femi-67568a19b

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